A.J. Wood quote, "Here's to you, may your life be as awesome as your status updates lead us to believe."

Authenticity is the Freedom from Other People’s Expectations

Years ago, while presenting at Adobe MAX, an attendee approached me after a group conversation and said, “You are so much nicer than the first time we met.” When I asked about our first meeting, the person said, “Oh, you were walking through the halls. I tried to get your attention, and you totally blew me off.” They had decided from that moment that my online identity was a complete fabrication, and I was, in reality, a jerk.

After sharing their story, I admitted I didn't recall our encounter, that I certainly didn't mean to be dismissive, and was probably focused on something else. Everyone has daily interactions like this: an event occurs, a judgment is made, and that individual is cataloged for future reference. If you doubt me, think about how quickly we reduce strangers to single moments during our daily commute.

The challenge is that one moment does not completely define a person. Maybe they're having a bad day and acted poorly. Maybe YOU were having a bad day and reacted poorly. No one really knows you. They only know their perception of you based on limited moments and incomplete context. The family version, the professional version, the social media version. The version you present to your parents, the one curated to your various friend groups. The person you share with your spouse vs the person you are with your kids.

Social media amplifies this problem because people are no longer judged through isolated experiences. We are now evaluated through a continuous stream of curated moments, partial context, and algorithmically rewarded behavior. This leads us to tailor content to platforms, optimize it for algorithms, study engagement metrics, and slowly learn which versions of ourselves audiences reward most. The approach makes sense if you’re a business. It’s frustrating when you’re simply catering to everyone else's needs. It’s exhausting when managing perception becomes indistinguishable from maintaining relationships.

Perhaps authenticity is not about presenting every version of yourself equally to everyone. Maybe authenticity is simply allowing yourself freedom from other people’s expectations, as they could never fully know you anyway. If we stop confusing visibility for intimacy, it would go a long way to improving our mental health.

“Here's to you. May your life be as awesome as your status updates lead us to believe.” – A.J. Wood

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The Illusion of Success – Five Truths Revealed

I've been kicking' around this blog post for a while, but then I saw some updates from Justin Seeley & Glyn Dewis this week that motivated me to put hands to keyboard.

How many times have you heard or even thought the following to yourself,

“Why can't I be lucky like [name]?”

“I want to be like [someone you admire], they catch all the breaks.”

“How did an idiot/moron/jackass like [name] get that promotion?”

“I'd trade places with [coworker/manager] in a heartbeat.”

“[person you envy] must live a charmed life.”

“There are already established leaders in what I want to do.”

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Top Five Exercises To Get Your Creative Juices Flowing

Something that students often ask me is “Where do you get your ideas?” which is generally part of a larger conversation that begins with “What do you do when you're totally uninspired?” This is often referred to as writer's block, creative apathy, and “the blahs”. Throughout the years, I've been fortunate to have met a handful of truly creative people. The type of people you envy as they seem to burst at the seams with endless creativity. I have found that to be the remarkable exception, not the norm. For the rest of us—myself included—that Earth shattering idea or creative impulse takes a bit more nurturing, and a lot more effort. Yes, that's right, despite what you may think—given the prolific amount of content I generate—even I have those moments where the creative energies seem absent. Here are some of the things I do to spark ideas:

1. Mix up your creative energy.
If I'm focused on writing, I'll take a break to listen to some music or watch unrelated video content. I prefer to write with little distractions, but sometimes I'll put on talk radio as background chatter to get my mind wandering. Other times I pump high-energy beats just to get the foot a tappin'. My goal is to get into a creative flow without forcing my hand or my brain.

2. Give yourself assignments.
I'm horrible when it comes to routine practice, but I've found having an assigment gives me a focused creative project. Lately, I've been focused on my writing so I use pictures as a creative exercise. The idea is to select a photo, then write something about it. Could be a phrase, simple poem, or expanded story, but it's drawn from the photo. Photographers have been giving themselves photo assignments for years. Google+ is a great haven for such photo-themed posts. Try it, pick a subject then use your creative talents to execute an idea from that subject.

3. Practice Practice Practice.
You read #2 right? How does practice spark creative energy? It's simple. The less you have to think about the mechanics of the task, the less you'll think period. And thinking is what got you here in the first place. Thinking about how you don't have any ideas. If you're constantly having to think about your camera controls or how to light a scene, you'll quickly become frustrated and lose that creative moment. If you can't remember the shortcut key to Deselect in Photoshop or how to duplicate a layer, it quickly becomes like spellchecking a document in the middle of writing every sentence. Michael Jordan wasn't good simply from inherent DNA. He practiced, and worked on his weaknesses in the off-season.

4. Take a break.
OK, now you probably think I'm just messing with you. I just told you to create regular assignments as a means to get you to practice, and now I'm telling you a take a break? Yeah. The fact is if you've been staring at that blank piece of paper for a while, or clicking off a number of photographs that you just don't like, it's time to step back and take a break. Sometimes I need to completely disengage from the creative activity. That's a really good time to find something else productive or relaxing. Get some house chores done, or spend some time playing in the yard with your kids, or take a nap. Yes, there will be real moments where you are not creative at all. Accept it, and move on.

5. Nobody has to see your mistakes. Just finish it.
I've experienced this quite a bit, but I see it the most in my colleagues and the students I teach. You're in the middle of creating something, and it's not your best work so you drop it. In fact, you have a collection piling up of hundreds of started ideas, but nothing finished. If you wait around for that “perfect moment” you'll miss out on creating anything at all. So just finish it. There will be time to critique the idea later.

I'll admit, I don't always perfectly execute my game plan. But then nobody does. Whether you write, paint, take photos, draw, sing, act, etc., just know that creative energy will beat inside you until you use it. So use it. Make mistakes, learn from them, practice, it's an endless cycle that has the potential to enrich not only your life but those around you.

What about you? What do you do to get the creative juices flowing?

To Maximize Your Talents You Have To Recognize & Acknowledge Where You Suck

Last week I mentioned that I had recorded new video tutorials for Layers Magazine & Psdtuts+. I have been creating videos for Layers Magazine for a while, and I was excited to have met Grant Friedman at Photoshop World. Our conversation at PSW Vegas led to the opportunity to create videos for Psdtuts+. My first tutorial Use Curves Adjustment to Turn Day to Night was posted last Friday and sent shockwaves throughout the community. Never before in the history of Psdtuts+ had such a horrendous-putrid-God-awful-stink of a tutorial ever been posted. At least, not until Saturday when my second tutorial Create a Planet Using Photoshop’s 3D Capabilities went live on the site…

*sigh*

I would be lying if I said that I wasn't disappointed with the outcome. No one wants to hear that their work isn't acceptable. How could this happen you ask? Simple. I clearly didn't know my audience before creating the tutorials. I have never claimed to be an artist, anyone who follows my work knows I'm more artisan & engineer. My talent lies not in what I create, but my ability to communicate & teach. I could argue the merits of both tutorials, but that would be like telling an Apple fanboy why they should by a PC. Bottom line, I missed the mark. I failed. I laid a big fat goose egg. Twice.

To Maximize Your Talents You Have To Recognize & Acknowledge Where You Suck

A colleague recently suggested I was living in a bubble of positive feedback where everyone kissed my ass and told me how wonderful I am. I can assure you, THAT is not the case. It would be easy to pass on creating future tutorials for Psdtuts+, but I'm not one to shy away from a challenge. The shortcomings in the videos I created were the final images. Can I create better images? ABSOLUTELY. Will all the readers on Psdtuts+ love my work? Probably not, but I'm willing to bet the positives results outweigh any negative reviews.

My Sister the Punk Rocker Coach on MTV’s MADE

If you're a fan of my website, then you already know about my sister Lesli. To say she's a superstar is an understatement. My sister is a force of nature, unbridled, and calling the shots since she was 12yrs old. She's proof that Gary V isn't the only person who's been in tune with their DNA since childhood. If you live in Seattle than you might know her as the “Punk Rock Attorney”. That's right, when she's not rockin' out the clubs on tour, she's kickin' ass in the courtroom.

People ask me all the time, “Why in the hell do you work so hard?” There's your answer.

My sister recently appeared on MTV's MADE where she helped transform a fresh highschool chick into a punk rocker. See the episode below.

Here's Lesli Covering Depeche Mode

Lesli used to perform with the band Ms Led

Lesli with her current band The Redwood Plan

The Redwood Plan “Push” at Bumbershoot 2010